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0AMAVASYA TARPANAM

SANKALPAM

( Though Vaadiyars advise that Tarpanam should be done for both sides, it is my considered view that Amavasya Tarpanam should be done only for the Father's side.  No tarpanam should be done during eclipses, sankramana kaalams and other times.  Tarpanam should be done only on Amavasya days and  after Varsha Srardham, with or without homam, Mahalaya and during teertha Srardham.  Mahalaya Srardham / Tarpanam and Gaya Srardham  should be done basically for Vamsa pithrus that is only those from the Fathers side, one's own mother, own brothers or sisters and their children  and also the children of Fathers own or cousin brothers or sisters (Athai / Athya/Fufi and their husbands.   These are the real karunya pithrus esp. for those among them  are unmarried and nobody is there to do for them. Relatives beyond these should not be unneccessarily added.  For other worthy relatives, friends, bosses, non related people who may be poor, they can be offered Tarpanam and Pindam in Teertha Srardham done  in a kshehthram.  Mother's parents and all relatives in their line are not even karunya pithrus, in my view.  And  though doing for Mother's side can be termed optional and better to be avoided and if at all only during Mahalaya and at Gaya  and never on any other occasion including Amavasya.  Lord Krishna slew Kamsan Mama though he was his mother's brother. Delivering apt punishment to the wicked is not prohibited in the Shastras.  In Kali Yuga one has to see the ethical as the legal propriety.     Whereas in case of one's own Parents and brothers, though they need not be supported and can be dissuaded from actions, that are wrong in Dharma, the relationship and the loyalty has to be maintained as it becomes a sacred obligation.   All services,  sacred rites and Tarpanam and Srardhams are to be performed irrespective of anything that they had done in their lives.  No dosham occurs to the Kartha.

Despite Karna being treated with animosity during his life by the Pandavas, the Pandavas perform Srardha and Tarpana for him after learning that he was their own blood brother.  Bhishma, Drona, Kripacharya and Karna fought on the sde of Duryodhana, since it was their ficudiciary duty and their dharma to fight against the Pandavas, though the Pandavas were actually on the side of Dharma with Lord Krishna with them.  So also the brothers and sons of Karna,  Strong  dosham can occur, if holy acts are done for bad people, sinners, those who resort to black magic, who take help of mantravaadhis, who have committed crimes against others, who have usurped property of others, who have deliberately supported wrong people or wrong causes, and those who have no ethics  or righteousness in life, and so come in the category of the fallen are called chandals who may get a horrible fate in their future life or afterlife.  Such bad people and sinners are not qualified to do any rituals for Gods, visit temples, kshethras or take sacred baths.  So without knowing about somebody's life, no Ritualistic Karma should be done to them in life or for their afterlife.

TARPANAM 

Achamanam,. Shukalam Bharatharam, Pranaayaamam

Sankalpam : Mamopaatha samas tha dhurithakshaya dwaara Sri Parameshwara prithyartham - Apavithra pavithrovaa Sarva avasthaam gathopi vaa yaha smareth pundarikaaksham sabhyaak antharas shuchihi -

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adhya Sri Bhagavathaha maha purushasya Visnur aagnaya pravartha maanasya adhya Braamanaha dwithiya parrarthey Shwetha varaha kalpe Vaivasvatha manvanthare astaavigum shathi thame kali yuge prathame paadhe Jambudwipay bharata varshe bharata khande Meruhu Dakshinay parshve Sakaapthe asmin vartha maanay vyavahaarike prabhava adhinam shastyaha samvatsaraanaam madhye  

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Dakshinaa / Uttaraa yanay       Rithou           Maasay  Krishna  Pakshay Amaavaasyaam  Shubathithou

 Vaasaraha Yukthaayam   i      Nakshatra  Yukthaayaam Shubha Yoga Shubha karana Evanguna Visheshana  VISHISH TAAYAAM  ASYAAM  Amavaasyaam Punyathithou 

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• Gothraanam Vasu  Rudrá  
• Adityá Swarupanaam
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•  Asmath Pithru  Pita maha  
• Prapithá Mahanaam  mama
•  Mathtru saha pithuhu
•  Pithamahi Pithuhuh 
• prapitha mahinaam  adhi 
• Pithrunaam akshayyá Thrupthyartham  /amavasyá punyakaalay tilá tarpanam cha anya dhinay/adhya karishye... 
• Narak Chaturdashi is upto 2.18 p.m. -  thereafter Amavasya - Karthik maas tithi  is as per North Indian calendar)
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Aavahanam : Ayatha pitaraha soumyaha gambhiriihi pathibhihi purvaihi Prajam asmabhyam dhadhá  tho  rayim chá  Dirga ayuthvam  chá shatha sharadham cha Om B  B  Suvarom B Gothraan ____ Sharmanaha  vasu rudra aditya swarupaan  asmath PPPPM BG SMK Mama MPithuhu pithaamahi pithuhu Prapithamahishcha asmin kurcha mandalay dhyaayaami avahayaami

Asanam : Sakrudhá chinnam bará hirar naamrudhu  syonam pibhyasthvá maram yaham - Asmin Seedhanthu may   mama mthru Pithru saha Avaahitha Pithrunaam chá idamasanam  - Tiladisakala aradhanihi swarchitham.  -

Dakshina : Hiranya garbha garbhastham ... 

P S : Red letters indicates change as per one's Gotra, name and relatiionship, and way of doing.   



PITHRU TARPANAM  - 

1.  UDHIRATHAAM AVARÁY    UTPARAASÁHA  00N MADHYAMAHÁ   PITARAHÁ SOMYASAHAA  ASUM  YAYI YURA VRUKÁ  RUTHAGNYAAS THÅY NOVANTHU  PITARO HAVAYSHU_________GOTHRAN   ___________  SHARMANAHA VASU RUPAAN MAMÁ PITHRUN SWADHÁ NAMAS TARPAYAMI

2.  ANGIRASÏ NAHÁ PITARO

NAVAGVÁ ATHARVANO BRIGAVAHÁ SOMYAASAHA  THESHAAM VAYA SUMATHOU YAGNIYAA NAAMAPI BHADRE SOUMANASAY SYAAM ___________GOTHRAAN  ____________ SHARMANAHA VASU RUPAAN MAMÁ PITHRUN SWADHÁ NAMAS TARPAYAMI

3.  AYANTHÕ NAHÁ PITHARAHÁ SOMYAASO AGNISHVAATHAHA PATHIBHIRDEVÁ YAANIIHA   ASMIÎN YAGNÅY SWADHAYÁ MAADHAYANTH VADHI _________  GOTHRAAN____________ SHARMANAHA VASU RUPAAN MAMÁ PITHRUN SWADHÁ NAMAS TARPAYAMI

PITAMAHA TARPANAM 

1.  Urjam VAHAN THIIR AMRUTHAM GHRUTHAM PAYAHÁ KEELALAM PARISRUTHAM SWADHASTHA TARPAYATHA MAY PITHRUN _______ GOTHRAAN____________ SHARMANAHA RUDRA RUPAAN MAMÁ PITAMAHAN  SWADHÁ NAMAS TARPAYAMI

2. PITHRUBYAHÁ SWADHA VIBHYAHÁ SWADHÁ NAMAHA PITHAMAHAYBHYAHÁ SWADHA VIBHYAHÁ SWADHÁ NAMAHA 

3.  YAY  CHAYHÁ PITAHRO YAY CHÁY NAYHÁ YAASCHÁ VIDNÁ YAÁ  UCHANÁ PRAVIDNA  AGNAY THAAN VAYATHI THÁY JATAVEDASTHAYAÁ PRAATHÁ SWADHAYAA MADHANTHU

________ GOTHRAN _____ SHARMA NAHA RUDRA  RUPAAN MAMA  PITAMAHAN  SWADHÁ NAMAS TAR PAYAMI

PRAPITAMAHAN  -

1.  MADHU VAATHAÁ  RUTHAAYÁ  THAY  MADHUK SHARANTHI  SINDHAVAHÁ MADHVIRNAHA SANTHVO OUSHADIHI ___ GOTHRAN_____ SHARMA NAHA ADITYA  RUPAAN MAMA PRAPITAMAHAN SWADHÁ NAMAS TARPA YAMI 

2. MADHU NAKTHA AMRUTHOSHASi MADHUMAATH  PAARTHIVA RAJAHA MADHU DHYOURASTHU NAHA PITHA. ______________GOTHRAAN____________ SHARMANAHA ADITYA  RUPAAN MAMA  PRAPITA MAHAN  SWADHÁ NAMAS TARPAYAMI

3.  MADHUMAANO VANASPATHIR MADHUMAÁ ASTHÕ SURYAHÁ MADHVIR GAAV0 BHAVANTHU NAHA  GOTHRAAN____ SHARMANAHA ADITYA  RUPAAN MAM  PRAPITAMAHAN  SWADHÁ NAMAS TARPAYAMI

MATHRU TARPNM 

1.                   GOTHRAN__  ____ NAMNIHI VASU RUPAHA MAMÁ mathrun  SWADHÁ NAMAS  TARPAYAMI

2.           GOTHRAAN___________ NAAMNIHÉ RUDRÁ RUPAHÁ  MAMÁ PITHUHUPITHA MAHIIHÉ SWADHÁ NAMAS 

3.  GOTHRÁN  ___________NAAMNIHÉ ADITYÁ RUPAHÁ MAMÁ PITHUHU PRA PITHAMAHIHI SWADHÁ NAMAS TARPAYAMI    -   

- Urjam Vahanthir amrutham  ghrutham  payahá  kilalam parisrutham swa dhaas thá tarpayathá may pithrun - Thrupth yathá..  Pradakshinam, Yathasthaam - Yesham na matha na pitha na mithra nyathi baandhavaaha Thay sarve trupthi mayanthu mayoth thsrustaiyahá  kusodhakaiyaha .  Achamya. - Apa Upasprasya - 

SRAARDHAM

Traditional (Tamil cuisine):   No brinjal, onion, coconut, lasoon,  No green or red chillies,  Molagu to be used.  Molagu jeeraan should not get mixed.    The standard cuisine has been 

3 curries - bittergourd, plaintain,  Kotharangai / Sheppankazhangu  - 3  kinds of fruits

3 Bakshanam -  Ulathamparuppu vadai        Adhirasam or Appam, the mandatory -  Elluurundai -  3 rice combinations - morkuzmbu rice, rasam rice and      

Murungakka Poruchakorzambu,  Vendakkai Morkozambu. lemon rasam (no tamarind in rasam), payathamparuppu for rice, Snake gourd, tindsa, Cucumber, cabbage, cauliflower, plaintain flower and and limda can be used suitably.   Avial and a mix of vetables Pitalai also can be made, though it is usually in Samaradhanai Shamaiyal on shodhakumbam day. Similarly with Paal payasam ( milk and rice kheer),  In  Sraardham, it is usually Paruppu payasam or Kheer made of payatham paruppu (Moong dal).

Mango pachdi, thair pachdi, inji Urugaa - Adhrak pickle, curd rice, karugupalai thogaiyal (limda achar)

A NOTE ON Apasthamba Srardha Prayogam involves the following stages :

The Kartha must do Snaniyam and Sandhya vandanam upto Madhyanigam, and short Gayatri Japam.  In my view Brahma Yagnam is not mandatory,  And can be done at the end if the Srarddham is done without Homam.  

Achamaniyamnam - Shukalam Bharadharam,,, -  Pranayamam (1)

Anugnai from anthanargal - token dakshinai - metal coins 

Sankalpam - Snanam or atleast Prokshanam by anthanargals, naveena vastra dharanam - 

Padhyam, Arghyam, Achamaniyam,  Alankara Upachaaram, Samitha dhaanam, Homam, Hastha Prakshalanam, Achamaniyamn Brahmana Bhojanam, Hastha Prakshalanam, Achamaniyam, Vikira Annam, Kaaka Pinda Pradhanam, Hastha Prakshalanam, Achamaniyam Dakshinai, Pradakshinai of Brahmanas, Namaskaaram, Ashirvadham from Brahmanas, Havishobanam after Pradakshanai thrice, Pinda Pradhanam, Srardhanga tarpanam, Hastha Prakshalanam, Achamaniyam, Rakshai from Homa Fire ashes, Hastha Prakshalanam, Achamaniyam,  In my view, the Kartha must take one more bath / Snaniyam before taking meals for the day.  Late evening, the Kartha and those who have partaken of Srardham food. cannot take a full meal and mandated not to take rice food, but can take Vadai, Appam, Eluurndiai,and remants of the morning feast only with curd, apart from fruits, milk, tea, coffee.  Perfect Brahmacharya must be maintained atleast 3 days before and 3 days after the Srardham.  No seeing movies or attending to non essential wordly business on the day of Srardham.